We all want to be right. Right? Interestingly though, what do you think you are right about? This classic quote from Henry Ford sums it up:
“Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right.” Henry Ford
One of the most important filters that we use to interpret our world is the belief filter. We are full of beliefs that we have adopted over our lifetime that we now take as fact. These beliefs either help us grow or hold us back. So, how are your beliefs affecting your life?
Whatever we do believe acts as a frame of reference for our focus. For example;
- Do you believe that you are a lucky person? Or, do you believe that you are unlucky and things never go your way?
- Do you believe that whenever you need money you’ll have it? Or, do you believe that you never have enough money and that you are always scrimping to pay your bills?
- Do you believe that your partner is trustworthy and honest? Or, do you believe that you cannot trust anyone and that you always need to be watchful and look out for signs of infidelity?
Think about each of the scenarios in turn. Notice how your body feels and what emotions you experience with each one. Which beliefs feel the most real to you? Whichever belief rings true for you will dictate what you focus on in your life. When anything happens, good or bad, we revert to our belief and say, “See! I was right!” generally ignoring anything that is contrary to the belief.
Exercise: Think about a goal that you would like to achieve in life; for example finding the right partner, progressing with your education, getting a better job or overcoming a mental/emotional block. Whatever it is check if you have a belief that prevents you from achieving this goal?
Now, ask yourself if this belief is true and if so, how do you know that it is true? Maybe it’s just an idea rather than a fact. What does this belief actually do for you? Is it serving you well? Is there any real reason to keep it? OK, now think of what you could believe instead. What would empower you and help you achieve your outcome? What does this new belief do for you?
“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.”